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Photo by Ty Levey

Photo by Ty Levey

Excuse: to feel happy, I need to be in a relationship.

When was the first time you fell in love? Junior high...? High school...? Whenever it was, it was probably a pretty big deal at the time. Your first love is usually the one you remember in very specific detail. We learn so much about ourselves and others through wonderful relationships.

Life can be hard to go through alone at times, so we feel the need for another to comfort us. It's a very normal human emotion to want to be wanted. A problem that's all too common, though, is when your individual happiness becomes entangled with needing someone else.

If no one's told you lately, I will... You're an amazing person by yourself and you don't require the approval or presence of anyone else to recognize that.

However, let's say for example that you're not someone who is alone by choice. Those who are alone by choice tend to have reasons whether it's high standards for their partner, career decisions, etc. But if you're alone and still desire someone, that can be a tough pill to swallow. After all, you probably feel like you deserve a good partner (which you do) to share your life with. So what's blocking this?

Focusing on the lack of a relationship is likely the cyclical detriment. When you focus on something you don't have, it can get you down. This mental state then seeps into your subconscious which you continue to validate and enforce through physical body language that conveys things like a lack of self-confidence.

There was a time when I had just gotten out of a relationship and I was so focused on the fact that I was alone that by my subconscious agreement with the situation, I was the one perpetuating my predicament regardless of whether I wanted to be in a happy relationship or not. It was only when I finally let go and started doing things that made me happy was I able to find romance again.

It seems strange and counterintuitive, but the best thing you can do if you want to manifest a relationship is to live life confidently as if you're already in a relationship. What would you do differently if you were in a relationship? You'd probably clean your house more often. Do laundry more frequently. Have your physique, clothing and hygiene on point. You have to "make room" for your ideal relationship to come into your existence. There's no room for that to happen if you're still in a "self" mindset.

Be happy all by yourself. The rest will follow. And maybe travel some more... ;) 

 
 

Lyrics:

[Intro]
Honest…
Knew it from the start and…
Different, so you keep hurting
Dividends, so you keep working
I just don’t wanna see you
No time soon
I just don’t wanna see you
No time soon

[Hook]
Stay around him
(You gone?)
Take off your shoes then, you say you got it
(Okay, okay, okay)
Ain’t no way around it
(No way, no way)
Take off your shoes then, you say you got it
(Okay, okay, okay)
Don’t leave now shorty, gotta stay around — yea, yea
Whoa kemosabe, bouta lay it down — yea, yea
Don’t leave now shorty, gotta stay around — yea, yea
Whoa kemosabe, bouta lay it down — yea, yea

[Verse 1]
Girl, you flyin’
Girl, you know you fly and
I’m tryna be ya passport
In and out of my life
Girl, you flyin’
Girl, you know you fly and
I’m tryna be ya passport
In and out of my life
When you travel to the east side
Travel back to the west side
South side, aye yeah
Girl, you flyin’
Girl, you know you fly and
I’m tryna be ya passport
In and out of my life

[Hook]

[Verse 2]
By the moonlight, yeah it’s alright
By the time it’s sunrise, then you on flights
I ain’t even get to see you in a hot minute
Girl, I really wanna see you when it’s hot, sweatin’
Sundress all white, with the french tips
You know I travel light with a big stick
So I’m never finna be overhead, I’m pilot talkin’
And the wheels fold up after take-take off-off
When you travel to the east side
Travel back to the west side
South side, aye yeah
Girl, you flyin’
Girl, you know you fly and
I’m tryna be ya passport
In and out of my life

[Hook]